Patriarch Cornelius
About Patriarch Cornelius
Patriarch Cornelius is the leader of Domus Cornelii. He is a 26-year-old born and raised in the Netherlands and presently lives there.
He is multicultural and mixed, including 53% Scandinavian, 32% Eastern European (primarily Polish) and 15% North and Western European (primarily Dutch).
He has brown eyes, has been growing out His beard since 2021 and has been growing out His hair since 2023. He has an average build, is semi-hairy, stands 183 cm (6 ft) tall, and weighs 75 kg (165 lbs).
Although he was brought up in a conservative and religious household, he has since grown apart from religion and does not consider himself to be a religious person.
The Journey
The journey of Patriarch Cornelius started from a very young age. He was always very different from his peers. His maturity outpaced his peers, presenting a contrast as stark as night and day. His interests strayed far from the conventional, rendering him an anomaly amidst those around him. A patriarchal spirit resided within him, guiding his steps along a unique path, a journey designed solely for him.
Elementary School
My earliest recollection of my kinky feelings was during my elementary school days. Though the exact grade eludes me, I believe it was likely the third or fourth. I must have been around seven or eight years old at the time. Our school had a spacious playground with a small grove, lush grass, and various patches of sand with playground equipment.
During lunch breaks, we often engaged in games of Tag on the playground. On one such occasion, I devised a game of kidnapping. The girls would hide, while the boys would organize and guard a base camp at the playground equipment, scouring the area for the girls, capturing them, bringing them back to the base camp, binding them there, and guarding them until all the girls were caught.
I remember a particular moment when I pinned down one of the girls and placed my hand over her mouth. She was wearing a striking dark green leather jacket and had gorgeous blonde curls. This is my earliest recollection of my kinky feelings, and it remains a vivid memory to this day. Of course, at that time, I was unaware of the existence of the BDSM world.
It's interesting to think that this experience may be an indication that BDSM is not something we develop a liking for over time, but rather, that these feelings are innate within us. Many other instances like this during my childhood support this theory.
Extreme Love
When I was about twelve years old, there was a show on television that was about extreme relationships, a bit of research tells me that it was likely called "Extreme Love". Although this was a version with Dutch commentary.
I was watching this show with my parents, and it delved into the many BDSM dynamics. To my parents who were conservative and religious this was insanity but to me a whole new world opened up, a world that made so much sense. I also got my private computer around this age, and I spent many weeks reading up on all the different aspects of BDSM on the internet. Unfortunately, there wasn't much else I could do because I was too young to do anything else with it by societal standards.
A Rocky Road
At eighteen, I joined Collarspace, an outdated dating site for the BDSM community. I spent a significant amount of time there, but ultimately, it was a lot of wasted time. It wasn't until I signed up for FetLife that I truly began to explore and understand my desires.
On FetLife, I had the opportunity to experiment, often through trial and error. In the beginning, there were more mistakes than successes. I knew I was drawn to the Master/slave dynamic and felt an innate calling as a father figure within my relationships. However, blending these roles with my broader BDSM interests in a meaningful way that made sense (to me) was still a challenge.
Through a series of relationships, some with abusive submissives (yes, that does happen), I learned valuable lessons. Each encounter, though difficult, helped me refine my path and clarify the direction I wanted to take.