I Don't Want to Be a Strong Independent Woman

You've been taught that being a strong independent woman is the only way to avoid becoming a slave to men, to the patriarchy. I'm not here to tell you every man is a saint or that caution isn't warranted, plenty aren't, and it is. But if you're honest with yourself, you'll admit women aren't all perfect either. So it's worth asking where that message actually came from.

Who Actually Told You That?

When you catch yourself thinking I don't want to be a strong independent woman, ask who you'd actually be a slave to if you let that thought stay. Who taught you that wanting to depend on someone made you weak? I'd bet it wasn't a man who convinced you of that. It was everywhere else, and you never got to actually choose it for yourself.

Dependence Isn't the Enemy. Misplaced Trust Is.

There's nothing wrong with depending on someone, as long as it's placed somewhere it's actually earned. That's not something you hand over on day one. You court him. You learn who he actually is over time, and even once you think you know him, you keep building that dependence slowly instead of diving in headfirst. The women who get hurt by dependence usually rushed it, not chose it wrong in principle.

There Are Many Forms of Dependence

What I write about most is the far end of it, ownership. A man who's not just your partner and your best friend, but your owner, your mentor, the one you've handed real authority to. That's not going to be for everyone reading this, and it doesn't need to be.

Maybe It's the Housewife Life, Not Ownership

If full ownership isn't what pulls at you, this household is also built around the 1950s housewife life. Somewhere on that spectrum is probably closer to what you actually want than the independence you were told to perform.

If you're ready to stop performing independence you never actually wanted, I'd like to hear from you. Reach out through the Join the Family page.