I'm Not Looking for Just a Submissive. I'm Building a Kinky Family.

I don't remember exactly where and how that interest started to be honest. I do know that ever since I was a child I've had an urge to build some kind of community, which I express in a range of interests, and the Household is one of them. I can more easily tell you what draws me to it right now.

The idea of the Household took real shape during one of my relationships, one where the dream of a household became something we built together, and a chance discovery of an article about ancient Rome gave it its actual form. I've told that story in full on my own page, if you want the details.

It's kind of funny because in general I don't care about socializing at all, I have a weak social battery, am a bit of a lone wolf. Yet I'd love nothing more than spend lots of time with a partner, build a big family together, maybe some community together, and perhaps even multiple partners at some point. It's funny how that works. I suppose it's all about spending that energy on the right people and having the right people around you. I'm full of inconsistencies and conflicts when it comes to social contact.

I'm not a polygamous man by nature. The concept of being 'trapped' in monogamy feels alien to me. I don't lust after a multitude of partners or crave variety in my romantic life. For me, one partner can be more than enough. I am drawn to the idea of a big family, having a group of people around you that care about you, that work on the same goals, that support you during tough times. Not just friends, but something that goes beyond that.

I like the idea of my partner having others she can share important moments with, women who become best friends, confidantes, and sisters in every sense of the word. Helping each other, supporting each other, sharing experiences together, learning things together, struggling together and having fun together. It doesn't cause a relationship to fragment or dilute, it multiplies.

I believe that you are stronger as a group, more efficient, and in a world that's becoming increasingly more unstable that doesn't seem like a bad thing to have. I like the idea of some big closed household or community where we all work on something that make all of our lives better, care about each other, love each other, etc. I believe there is a certain strength in numbers and being stronger together. That's also why I love family. Especially when I look at some of these Italian/Spanish/Mexican families with wineries where there is still that feeling of an extended family building something big together, eating together, working together, etc. That is also exactly the same reason I'm so drawn to Roman households, because they had that same feeling.

I think building something like that in a kinky setting? An extended kinky family that you get to choose? That might just be as close to heaven as you can get on this earth.

If that's the kind of family you've been looking for too, not just a Dominant, but a household to belong to, I'd like to hear from you. Reach out through the Join the Family page.